Don’t assume that a skill is also an enjoyable activity

Don’t assume that a skill is also an enjoyable activity

Don’t assume that a skill is also an enjoyable activity

I’m good at stacking the dishwasher. That doesn’t mean I enjoy it. I can also make a pretty mean coffee on my home espresso machine. However, I don’t want to make coffee for 200 other people.

Most of you could probably relate to having something in your life that you do well, but it’s not how you would want to spend your days.

And yet…

How often do we classify people and then assign tasks to them based on their ability to perform a task without asking if they actually enjoy it?

“Jane is great with spreadsheets. We’ll get her to do that.”

Yes, sometimes the task is part of the job the person signed up for and sometimes we just have to take one for the team and do something we don’t enjoy.

I’m not talking about that.

I’m talking about when we assume that because Jane is great with spreadsheets she must really like it, and so we label her the Spreadsheet Queen and load her up with working on everyone’s spreadsheets.

Meanwhile, if Jane hates working on spreadsheets but has left it too late to speak up for herself, she is in for a world of misery.

How do we stop it?

It’s really simple. When we catch ourselves making that assumption, remember to ask a couple of extra questions…

“Do you enjoy doing this?”
“Does it energise you or drain you?”

And if you’re ‘Jane’ in this story, you need to find the assertiveness to speak up. You may disappoint a few people, but it will be better for your sanity in the long run.

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Amazing Skill is about the Years not the Minutes or Hours

Amazing Skill is about the Years not the Minutes or Hours

Amazing Skill is about the Years not the Minutes or Hours

Recently, my son (who plays clarinet) took part in a weekend music workshop as part of the State Honours Ensemble Program which is run through Griffith University – Queensland Conservatorium. This particular program was for students from grades 5 through to 9 (I think).

Being new to this scene, I didn’t really know how much could be achieved in just a weekend. However, on Sunday morning parents were able to see the group perform not one or two, but FOUR pieces they had worked on together during Friday evening and Saturday.

The outcome was incredible. Partly due to the talent of the students but more so because of the skill of those instructing them who were able to harness that talent and bring it together in a short space of time.

It made me reflect on the fact that we can sometimes underestimate what goes into achieving outstanding results. In this case, it wasn’t just a day and a bit of hard work, it was the instructors’ years of experience and learning that enabled them to bring a group of kids together and have them playing like a well-oiled machine in a matter of hours.

We can sometimes underestimate our value when we can achieve something relatively quickly (I am guilty). So it doesn’t hurt to remind ourselves now and then of the years of work and study that we have put in to give us that ability in the first place.

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